Pet PeEve
O.K. Ladies there are no perfect husbands out there, although mine is about 90% perfect in my eyes! However, why after 15 years of marriage and me continuously asking him to wipe down the sink after he shaves and brushes his teeth......HE DOES not get it???? Ok vent..........what is your pet peeve?? I am linking up with Lee from http://www.headacheshormonesandhotflashes.com, and Debbie from http://menonewmom.blogspot.com. Check out their blogs, they are awesome and entertaining to say the least! I kept my story short and sweet...because that is all it is...yet very annoying. Which by the way after I wrote this post several months back, my husband was good the next day. That was it!~ Seems he has short term memory loss too. I do call him the absent minded professor often. He is a chief pharmacist and excellent at his job!~ However, I do think his career sucks all the brain cells out of him during the day. I do believe I sound like the teacher From Charlie Brown.....Mrs. Donovan to be exact! WHA WHA WHA!~ Have a great day ladies. Hopefully this will be a continued linky party, because I do have more stories:)
posted by Debbiedoos @ 12:34 PM
27 Comments:
well lets just say i cant stand wiskers out of all the husbands i have had they all put the tolet seat down and cleaned the sink .But once the one left wiskers around the faucet .I was so grosed out i took him and said look what do you see here he looked at me and said nothing i said yes but look around the faucet .He said oh ok i keep those little towelets by the sink and showed him how to wipe around the faucet.I said if you dont do it you can use the other bathroom and live like a slob.Well guess what i have never seen a wisker since
Deb, lately mine has been the same thing. He use to always wipe up his mess and I though oh boy I have the best hubby ever. Now lately he has really slacked off and I mentioned it to him the other day and he said I do wipe it off. I said, not lately!! He said, well that is what I have you for and he laughed. He is a very good husband though. He lets me do just about anything I want to or lets me buy big ticket items occasionally without fussing. I just have to remind him he has his car hobby and mine is decorating the home. The other pet peeve I have is he does not know how to wipe his shoes off good when it is wet outside and he just walks on in and then I have shoe prints on the hardwoods. Drives me nuts!!!
LOL...I know Kim it is a little things that bug us, but we are human, and that is why I chose this topic!
Well I can say I have a great husband, but I will also say that he has never cleaned up after himself! If he has he must have been sick or not in his right mind for the day! LOL So after 17 years of marriage I don't expect that it will change. Now that being said one pet peeve I do have is him not locking is car doors! What- why would you not do that? So for years I nagged him about it then I quit! Then one fine day I had left to go to my brother's house. I didn't pay any attention to what was outside or what wasn't. He calls later as he is going to leave the house and asks me if his car was outside when I left. I said I don't know, I didn't pay any attention! Long story short, his car was stolen. It was found a few days later in a corn field and it was totaled. Some drunks evidently had taken it for a joy ride. Anyway- I hate it when people don't lock their cars. It doesn't matter where you live IMO. We live in a small town and it happens everywhere!! In fact we have dealt with more crime here than when we lived in a larger town! So please everybody- LOCK YOUR CAR DOORS!
Tom is awesome and is so good to me, but God love his heart...he doesn't listen! I will say I am going to do this or that and he will turn right around and say, "Have you thought about going anywhere?" Drives me bonkers!!!!!!
Ok, this one takes the cake! I dearly love my hubby, but he went ahead and invited our neighbors to go along with us on our Hawaiian vacation next month, without so much as asking me! And I can not stand the neighbor guy! It's not like we are best friends and hang out together! so I am furious with dear hubby, and I would actually rather stay home than spend 10 days with someone I don't like! Any thoughts on what to do? Help!!!
Donna, that is way beyond a pet peeve. But this is how I would handle it. You tell sweet husband that you where very taken back by him asking a neighbor that you are not even that fond of to go along on your lovely vacation. I would then tell him, it is his responsibility to tell the neighbor he was not thinking clearly and was a bit impulsive to ask him with out checking with you first. Then he has to tell the neighbor that this is a special vacation planned for the two of you and that he is sorry he was not thinking! This is all put back on him as it should be, and there is no way no how you should have to spend a vacation in HAWAII with someone you are not fond of. And who the heck wants to vacation with their neighbors anyhow??
Amen Debbie! Mine used to invite people over (he's very sociable and can be with people 90% of the time) without checking it with me. After doing this a few times I told him that it wasn't fair since I did all the work. I can't remember the example I gave, but something along the line of me doing that to him at his place of work. He's the best and got it right away.
Thanks Debbie and Sandy! Debbie, I will imagine you sitting on my shoulder when I have "the talk" with hubby! Hubby is a very social person too. I am more the quiet type, and though I like company, I really need my "space", especially on vacation for goodness sakes! What on earth was hub. thinking!?? I told him to never do that to me again! Ha! Wish me luck.!! I will keep you posted. My dearest is more stubborn than I am...........
Well Donna, let's just say he was not thinking, and that's OK he is entitled to mistakes! No need for argument, you just want it to be you and him, he should appreciate that more than Not~~~Good luck, it will go fine!~ Now I would love more than anything to be a fly on the wall when he tells the neighbors not happening plan your own darn VACA!!~LOL!
For me it has to be leaving a magazine laying in the bathroom floor. There is a rule in my house now; if you leave it in the bathroom floor, I ask no questions and put it in the bathroom trash. He still walks in the bathroom and I'll hear a "OH!!!" and I know his valuable, precious magazine was discovered.
Mine is not getting the phone messages. I leave by 7 a.m. he leaves by 9 a.m. If someone calls for me and its mainly clients with my work, everyone else knows I am at work, he will here the message and then forget to tell me. i get home and dont know about it. he works 14-16 hrs driving semi so i am asleep when he gets in. It may be 2 or 3 days later when he remembers to tell me. So I now check the caller ID daily to see what I may have missed. In my line of work promptness is key. hes also bad at the feet wiping thing. He thinks if he walks accross the rug that wiping the feet!
It's not a pet peeve so much as something that stumps me. The man is brilliant, honestly. A woman who heard him give a presentation at work once described him as "a brain with legs."
That being said, the man could not find his ass if it was on fire!!
My first realization that he was useless in this capacity was when I was working nights, staying home with my then preschool aged girls. I called ahead, asking him to make a simple spaghetti dinner and some simply pop & bake biscuits or bread sticks that were in the door of the refrigerator.
When I arrived, the spaghetti was done but there were no bread sticks....
I have to continue this story in 2 parts as, although I am below the maximum characters, I am having some trouble posting this...
After questioning him on why he didn't make them, he told me that we didn't have any.
I opened the refrigerator door, looked inside, and plain as day was the blue tube; complete with "pop n fresh" dough guy in the label just screaming "eat me! eat me!"
... There were no bread sticks with the spaghetti that night.
The next afternoon I was visited by a close friend. Without telling her why, or even where (such as "in the door of the refrigerator", as I'd told my husband) I asked if she could do me the favor of opening my refrigerator and finding the biscuits.
Without question she opened the door, and spotted them within moments.
Thank you.
... There have been many other occasions such as this. In fact, the reason I bring it up is because just this evening my little girl was complaining that her elbows were sore (got some minor scrapes today when dad took her to the park to learn how to ride her RipStik).
I told her to go to her dad and ask him to apply some Neosporin from the medicine cabinet to keep the scrapes moist, then cover them with Band-Aids for the night.
She gave him instruction when he called out to me that he didn't know where the Neosporin was.
... I should have known it was coming...
After hearing him rustle around in the cabinets for a minute or two he finally told me there wasn't any...
"In the white medicine cabinet in the bathroom... I just saw it today," I called back.
Rustle, rustle. Sounds of items falling.
Good freaking GRIEF! "Do I have to do EVERYTHING?" was my first thought...
He stepped aside as I walked into the bathroom, opened the medicine cabinet where, RIGHT ON TOP OF THE SHELF, FACING FORWARD, was a BRIGHT ORANGE BOX labeled "NEOSPORIN"
I opened the box, squeezed some of the goop onto the band-aid and handed it to him.
"I would have found it... eventually." he said.
With a slight, knowing smile, I replied, "No, you wouldn't have."
I remember the biscuits. I always remember the biscuits.
Now to his credit, I have a similar affliction only it manifests itself in a different manner and he, alone, can help me...
I am the victim of C.M.T.D (compulsive multi-tasking disorder). Perhaps I made this up, but it's true just the same.
I seldom complete a project before being distracted (at least 6 times) and going off into a different direction.
This A.D.D., easily distracted personality causes me to misplace things... Even odd things, like frozen chicken (don't judge me! I did find it 30 minutes later in the laundry basket!!).
Fortunately for me, my husband remembers seeing these misplaced items. I might call him at work to ask him if he's seen such things as my car keys to which he might correctly remember and ask, "Did you check on floor next to the sofa table?"
Or perhaps my eyeglasses and he will remember, "They are on the floor in the bathroom"
???
I usually don't remember quite how the items got where they are, but I'm always grateful that - even though he can't find one of 4 bottles of unopened ketchup in the pantry - he'll know my left black shoe is on the dryer in the garage.
We sometimes joke that we could never make it on our own; that it takes two of us to make a complete, sane mind. I imagine that if we did ever divorce he'd go hungry and I'd -- well, I was going to say I'd be driving half-blind without my eye glasses but I suppose I wouldn't because I'd never be able to find my car keys!!
- Tova
hi Debb, what a topic .. LOL... I m sure after writing something i again remember something more, than again .. and it goes and goes..hahaha.. love it.
My husband is the sweetest person I am sure...We nag a lot about lots.. The most we nagged about that he always I am going to strict with our daughter, she is his favourite kid,he can scold her angry with her but if I do he become angry that I am going too much with him... so we normally nag about it..
Otherwise because he is an army officer, discipline, manage the the things, punculaity is much much more in him than me, he is not a messy type person, love to be involved in home affairs, help me in even shopping :P, although all the time he said you are just crazy about shopping ok go and finish your work, am waiting.. Over all I m not much bothered with his habits and style...
With all that I love a bit nagging after somedays it spice up the life and brake the routing god good...
Mr. Begoluno never ever puts his seat belt on. :-) Maybe he thinks his butt is so big, he won't be ejected in case of a crash... I dunno. :-D
Then, when his truck starts to beep, I panic first... not knowing what that noise is (I always put my lifesaver on, so I don't know if cars beep when or what...) and tell him "Seat beeelt!". This is plain English. LOL. I need to say it one or two more times. I guess he then does so he doesn't have to listen to me again. :-)P
Then, he always does over the speed limit. Never under. Again, my plain English, "Thirty fiveee!" Again, two more times. By then, the speed limit has changed. LOL
Oh, ah! And the traffic lights. He cannot stand the red! I stop on yellow.
More about his driving: He keeps his old receipts in the truck, his used kleenex, books, empty bags, money...
By the way, I don't like to drive. So I'm very grateful that he takes me around. He's my taxi! :-)
Isn't it sad that our husbands aren't as perfect as we are? ;) I definitely don't want to start listing pet peeves about mine, because I'm sure HIS list about me would be twice as long!
My pet peeve seems petty since my husband cooks quite often & I have never had to cook a holiday dinner. He also will build or remodel anything for me. He might be a great cook and handyman but when it comes to cleaning, he doesn't notice that something is dirty, he'll leave boxes of stuff that come for his work in the formal dining room for a week & he will walk past an over flowing trash can 5 times until I ask him to take it out! Even after I ask him to take the trash out, if he doesn't do it right that second, he will forget & I'll have to ask him to do it 10 minutes later or take it out myself if he has already left.
I have learned in our almost 24 years of blissful marriage that if I would like somethings done, it is better to make him a short list of the items I would like him to do for that day rather than remind him 5 times or keep a very long "honey do" list on the refrigerator.( a long list seems to discourage him)
My pet peeve seems petty since my husband cooks quite often & I have never had to cook a holiday dinner. He also will build or remodel anything for me. He might be a great cook and handyman but when it comes to cleaning, he doesn't notice that something is dirty, he'll leave boxes of stuff that come for his work in the formal dining room for a week & he will walk past an over flowing trash can 5 times until I ask him to take it out! Even after I ask him to take the trash out, if he doesn't do it right that second, he will forget & I'll have to ask him to do it 10 minutes later or take it out myself if he has already left.
I have learned in our almost 24 years of blissful marriage that if I would like somethings done, it is better to make him a short list of the items I would like him to do for that day rather than remind him 5 times or keep a very long "honey do" list on the refrigerator.( a long list seems to discourage him)
Hi again Debbie,
I am doing the happy dance! I decided that I was standing firm in that I do NOT want to spend my 10 day vacation with someone I can not stand!! Hubby works for the airlines, so we fly standby
for free/really cheap. He assumed that the neighbors (who would be flying standby with us, too) understood standby, meaning you don't always get on the flight you want, you may get stuck somewhere, etc. somehow, my "lovely" hubby forgot to mention that minor detail to him. Anyway, neighbors decided to plan their OWN trip (yeah!), buy tickets, their own hotel & car. We would have been sharing a condo & car together. That is just waaayyy too much togetherness for me! Assertiveness on my part has been long over due! :)
Maybe you can do a topic about ignoramous (is that a word?!) things that our husbands/sig. others have done! :)
Donna, I suppose just putting it out there, is what made it all work out! Yes I will do that topic sometime for sure LOL! Enjoy your vacation, now you can breathe a little easier when thinking about it:) Debbie
Alright...my husband is always the last one out of the house when we're going somewhere. It doesn't matter, we can all be walkng out of the house at the same time and he'll go back in for whatever, a bottle of water, or his glasses, it's always something. So here we sit waiting. Also, he is always the last to order a meal off a menu. Again, what is going on? Just order something. He has to read everything on that thing and the server has to keep coming back to see if he's ready. By that time I'm not hungry anymore...grrrrr!
debbie...i am so laughing at this one !!!! after my post of love your spouse on valentines day....WELL!!!! i still do...but i am so frustrated at him for...always doing the same things...mainly what gets me is the garbage can will be right next to him or the sink and he will place it a couple of inches away...not hitting either one...lol..i have managed to get him to rinse the sink after shave ...WOW...only took 16 years ...maybe it will wear on him to hit the garbage can one day or place a dish in the sink...instead of on the counter...god luv him...will still love him on our specail valentines day and try to overlook his flaws..for at least one day...love this post!!!!!keep em coming debbie...your doing great...
debbie not sure if it took my comment but i am laughing ..so hard..at this one..
.love this post...lol..but i am trying to forget all of his little flaws for a short time..i do have to admit i have gotten him to wipe out those wiskers after a shave only took me 16 years to do so...maybe on day it will register with him to hit the garbage can
which is only a foot away from where he leaves his garbage...keep the post coming this one was fun!!!
Hey Debbie, thanks for linking this little gem up with us. Too funny and soooooooooo typical. You should see the state of our sink after hubby has been in the bathroom, I just thank the lord that he shaves in the shower. I didn't even think of that one Lol!
Deb
Wow, I completely understand that! I hate cleaning the bathroom now for that very reason.. it will be covered in whiskers and toothpaste the very next morning. If we have company I make my husband shower and shave the night before, then sit on the couch and play video games all morning while I get the house ready (cause if I let him loose there will be a wake of messes behind everything I clean!)
Feel your pain girl. Feel your pain! Linking up from Lee's. :)
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