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Tuesday, March 1, 2011

Coffee talk series and expectations

Well I do have some good news to share...
My BOOBS are good.
Just a couple new cysts that they wanted to double check were actually cysts!
Doc told me to cut back on chocolate and caffeine..
Yeah, OK, moving on here.
Went to the park the other day and it was so pretty!
I will be honest, I had a post all ready for today, discussing 
expectations...
after I read it a couple of times myself,
It felt redundant to share most of what I had written...so instead I will simplify...

So should we have expectations?

Think about it: when we have expectations, and things don’t go the way we expect (which happens quite often, as we’re not good prognosticators), we are disappointed, frustrated. It’s our expectations that force us to judge whether something is good or bad.
When you expect something of a friend, co-worker, family member, spouse, and they don’t live up to that expectation, then you are upset with them, or disappointed. It causes anger.
But what if you had no expectations — then their actions would be neither good nor bad, just actions. You could accept them without frustration, anger, sadness, or disappointment.
(this highlighted in red paragraph was copied from the Elements of living lightly) .
Well said much better than I could have expressed it.

And then I will ask you..
do you have expecations? Let's say for example with your blog, or blogging friends, husband, boss, family, ya know just  in general?

I am relieved to feel from all of you..and to actually  quote some of you....
You never know what to expect when you come here..
Which is a good thing!
That is exactly the way I want my blog...
A mixed bag..
kinda like the talk show I never had.
 (I am in desperate need of a Pedi!)


PUH! as my friends say,
OPRAH's Loss...
 http://99problems.org/wp-content/uploads/2011/01/oprah-own-shows_0.jpg

So that is all I have for today!
I am feeling like my life is back after three long weeks of anxiety to wait for my 
recheck.  I can breath a sigh of relief, yet another year.
Thank God for my life that he has blessed me with, Thank god for my family, and all my friends, including you!
XO
I have to add one more pertinent thought for the day....
This past year of blogging, I have put myself out there so much, whether it be to audition for Oprah's new show, or to enter a challenge, or perhaps a contest on Face book.  What I have shown my son's is far greater than ever winning any of them...
You reach for the stars,  have fun, do your best, and be all that you can be.
Had I never started this blog, I may never have been able to show them me as an example of doing just that.
Oh and it does help too,  that their Mom is not a sore loser!


Joining Tracy in her Black and White photo party

NEWBIE party still going on HERE
And you still have time to get in on this gorgeous piece
HERE

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50 Comments:

Blogger Kristin said...

Oh Debbie I'm so glad to hear that everything is OK. What a time that must have been for you ... a walk through the park - I should try that too!

March 1, 2011 at 4:19 PM  
Blogger At The Picket Fence said...

Well, reading that your boobs were good in the first few lines of this post was definitely unexpected! LOL! In all seriousness that is absolutely good news and I think this is such a great question to pose about expectations. I have lived many years of my life expecting/hoping that people would approach things in the same way that I do (friendships, family, ministry, etc.) and the reality is I was often disappointed. And to be honest, I've probably disappointed some folks here and there along the way. I think that when I lower my expectations in some of these areas, I leave room for being surprised by what happens and also find that I am able to see things a bit more clearly because those darn expectations aren't fogging things up. Does that make sense? Anyway, I truly do love that you give us such great food for thought, some good chuckles here and there, and of course a lot of great inspiration. You are one of kind, my friend! :-)
Vanessa

March 1, 2011 at 4:22 PM  
Blogger ⚜ ↁℯℬℬᴵℰ⚜ said...

Vanessa...yes one thing I would like to say is that the element of surprise is always the best when not expected...
Kristin...thanks so much
XO

March 1, 2011 at 4:29 PM  
Blogger Marie C. said...

Glad to hear that you're okay! I'm sure that's quite a relief.

As far as expectations go, I am definitely working on that in my own life! I understand that most of my disappointment comes when I have unrealistic expectations of others. I'm learning to let go. Of course this means I have to be less of a control freak and be okay with people who make decisions that are different than my own and let them deal with consequences if the decisions were not always ideal. My best friend has not yet reached this point, so she sometimes asks me "Doesn't __________ bother you?" and I have to say, "Well, it's her life and she's the one to live with her decisions. And that's okay."

Living without expectations is a hard lesson for me to learn, but I'm working on it!

March 1, 2011 at 4:33 PM  
Blogger Jo said...

YEAH! Let's give it up for the "boobs", they deserve a hand,hehe. I'm so glad there OK!!

I enjoyed the post!..
WE ARE SO BLESSED, and finding bloggy-buddies is a "BONUS".

Don't forget to checkn @ LazyonLoblolly, I sure miss linkin' up with the newbies.
~Jo
LazyonLoblolly

March 1, 2011 at 4:35 PM  
Blogger Erika . . . with a K said...

I am so relieved to hear everything is ok!! That's great news.
I feel like I don't have high enough expectations for myself -- if I did then I would not have gained 10 pounds this winter! Moving on.... I lost my brother when I was 16. He was close in age and a good friend as well as a brother. It was terrible and unfortunate but it changed my approach and outlook on life. I wouldn't say I have no expectations but I believe that life is what is is. We have to find a way to be happy with what we have and if you aren't... well, life is too short and find a way to find happiness.
I have high expectations for my husband and daughter and us as a family but they are realistic and those two could never disappoint me!
Love the topic today, definately got me thinking!

March 1, 2011 at 4:46 PM  
Blogger Melissa said...

Wonderful things to think about but guess what I am more interested in telling you how much I love the first black and white photo of the bench!! :)

March 1, 2011 at 4:56 PM  
Blogger Victoria said...

Yay for your healthy boobies! I think it's good to have expectations at times, I've expected certain behavior from my kids at times and of course I'll be disappointed if they don't live up. I think they just have to be realistic ones! Being this is my second I definitely came into it with certain expectations for Kyran. And if he disappoints me he will RUE the day he met me:) Seriously tho, I think we'd be a blah bunch if we didn't expect certain things!

March 1, 2011 at 5:04 PM  
Blogger Infatuated with Homes and Gardens said...

Great news Debbie, I could gow without chocolate but never COFFEE, love the black and white photos, it looked like a lovely day:)
Sharon xoxo

March 1, 2011 at 5:06 PM  
Blogger ChRiS said...

good news Debbie i am sure the day went much better for you after the news....love the bench picture in black and white!

March 1, 2011 at 5:15 PM  
Blogger laxsupermom said...

Beautiful pics! It's hard not to have expectations. We expect things from ourselves, our family, our careers, etc. I've had a difficult time with my 14yo's lackluster approach to schoolwork. He's genius smart, but only does the bare minimum and is happy with B's. I have to remind myself that he's not a mini-me, and while I can expect him to try - I can't expect him to want to try. Great post! Thanks for sharing.

March 1, 2011 at 5:21 PM  
Blogger Pam - diy Design Fanatic said...

Great photos Debbie! Love the one of the bench! Great comments here... I feel the same way as Marie. There's not a lot out there that we can control sometimes even after we've done all the "right" things ...Many times the only thing we can control is our attitude.

March 1, 2011 at 5:22 PM  
Blogger Linda @ A La Carte said...

At first I thought it said your boobs were GONE...??? then I reread that were GOOD! Whew, that's a relief! Love the photos and the bench is very cool. Good thought on expectations! Lots to think about. hugs, Linda

March 1, 2011 at 5:23 PM  
Blogger Pam said...

Well, glad to hear the boobs are okie dokie. And nice black and white photos!

As for expectations, I used to have huge expectations of other people that I never let them know about. And then I ended up being dissappointed. A lot. It's so much nicer to just go with the flow and be surprised when they do something great. And I have learned that if I really have something that I would like them to do, then I probably need to mention it or at least hint at it. People aren't mind readers!

March 1, 2011 at 5:24 PM  
Blogger Sarah said...

Debbie, glad you received good news. I had to give up caffeine years ago because of a problem with cysts. I still indulge in chocolate though. ;-)
I hear what you are saying about expectations as a cause for us to judge which leads to disappointment, but I don't think it's as black and white as stated. I think it depends on the circumstances. If one lives life with flexibility then change does not have to disappoint. But there are some behaviors that require certain expectations ~ honesty, fidelity, loyalty to name a few.
Just my thoughts ~ Sarah

March 1, 2011 at 5:30 PM  
Blogger Kim @ Savvy Southern Style said...

Great post my friend. I am so glad your test was good and you can breathe freely now!!

March 1, 2011 at 5:31 PM  
Blogger ⚜ ↁℯℬℬᴵℰ⚜ said...

Thought provoking topic for sure..I love it!

March 1, 2011 at 5:40 PM  
Blogger Pam said...

Congratulations on your good news!!

I love having expectations, especially at this time of year! Spring is EXPECTED VERY SOON! :)

Have a great day. Thanks for sharing.

Pam

March 1, 2011 at 5:50 PM  
Blogger SparkleFarkle said...

Congratulations to your breasts! I don't know, does Hallmark have a boob card line? If they do, check your mail in a couple of days, as I will be sending two to cover all bases.

March 1, 2011 at 6:01 PM  
Blogger Gina said...

I'm so glad to hear that everything is ok. Just the worrying alone is enough to send even the strongest among us over the edge. Take good care of yourself & do something special just for you.

March 1, 2011 at 6:08 PM  
Blogger Judy said...

I'm so glad to hear that everything is okay. As far as expectations go, I've learned that I had to lower my expectations of people. I used to expect people to do what I would do in a situation. I set very high standards for myself and used to assume everyone else did as well and would often find myself getting disappointed. I would put people on pedestals and then ultimately they would fall off. I now how more reasonable expectations of people and have a better understanding of who my true friends are and who are just friends. I just leads to me not being disappointed as often. Great topic for conversation. Hope you drop by and join in the party that opens up tonight at 8pm EST.

March 1, 2011 at 6:43 PM  
Blogger Here On Crow Creek said...

Debbie, I am so happy about your boobs:)

March 1, 2011 at 6:54 PM  
Blogger The Polka Dot Closet said...

Congrats on the boobs, guess your going to have to build a lot of churches (I always make God a ton of promises) You sure are introspective today! I find when I don't have a ton of expectations I am always pleasantly surprised! As for peoples personalities matching their blogs, I would like you to be my neighbor, we could have sooo much fun!! The post before your's on my blog, was saying how peoples personalities came through "Like Debbie Doo's"

Carol

March 1, 2011 at 7:18 PM  
Blogger Martha said...

So happy for you that all is well!!

March 1, 2011 at 7:18 PM  
Blogger Donnie said...

I have fibroids or lumpy boobs so I feel for you on the yearly anxiety level spike. Glad all is well. I expect nothing from anyone including myself. I'm just thankful for each day and I just try to get through it without hurting anyone or God. I enjoy your posts because it's you. have a wonderful day.

March 1, 2011 at 7:31 PM  
Blogger NanaDiana said...

Glad your boobs are good! If you like I have a couple of family "boobs" that I could send your way.

Great post! Expectations? I have learned that the less I expect of others the less disappointed I am in them. And, I do think that if you are expecting the worst that is what you will usually get.

I find that my expectations for myself are sometimes way over the top...I expect much more from myself than I would ever expect from anyone else. Why is that? Is it because we have been taught to be Superwoman and do more than is really required? I think I need to ease up on ME! Great post and made me think about it! Hugs-Diana

March 1, 2011 at 7:35 PM  
Blogger Pattie said...

Debbie, so glad to hear your boobies are good and Girl Friend you do need a pedicure... I did five today.. to bad you live so far away cause I have a 10:00 open...

Love Ya Pattie

March 1, 2011 at 7:54 PM  
Blogger Sherry @ No Minimalist Here said...

Hi Debbie, So glad you and your boobs are doing well! I would have no problem giving up caffeine but don't even try to take away my chocolate. I admit I do have high expectations of myself and others and sometimes this can lead to disappointment.
Hugs,
Sherry

March 1, 2011 at 8:04 PM  
Blogger -Kasey said...

Glad to hear your girls are A-Okay!! :)

As far as expectations... I used to have them, then I learned from them, than I ditched them and haven't looked back since. I take everyday, every situation and everyone [for that matter] one day at a time. I feel less stressed when I just 'go with it'.

March 1, 2011 at 8:06 PM  
Blogger Lori said...

Good for your boobs and you are way to brave to show those toes. Mine look worse!

March 1, 2011 at 8:07 PM  
Blogger Tracy's Trinkets and Treasures/Treasured Moments said...

I have lots to say here. First, I am so glad your boobs are good. I have my mammogram coming up this month. It always makes me a little nervous. I had one biopsy when I was in my early 30s already. It was fine. Second, I want you to knwo you are a total package. You are so good to others and you have a free fun spirit that shines through all you say and do. Third, you pics are so cool. I love them all, but the first bench one is my fav. Thanks for linking.

March 1, 2011 at 8:19 PM  
Blogger Katie said...

High five for the boobies!! :) And, great post. I think expectations can sometimes save you from floating by in life; however, I do agree that sometimes you miss the "good" stuff when you expect too much. One of those thoughts to ponder in the tub later!

March 1, 2011 at 8:28 PM  
Blogger ~Lavender Dreamer~ said...

This is the third time I've been to this post to read the comments! It's so interesting and I'm afraid if I get started...I won't know where to stop! I have expectations...HIGH expectations! And sometimes I'm disappointed...but not for long! I'm glad you are OK with your tests! I know that is worrisome! Hugs to you,my friend! I need to go...to read more of the comments! ♥

March 1, 2011 at 9:14 PM  
Blogger Wendy said...

Hugs to you Debbie and so happy to hear the good news! It has been great getting to know you this last year! Who knows sometimes you reach for the stars and land on the moon and find out the moon is pretty cool, you are giving your son a great gift....the gift to dream and if you are going to dream....Dream Big!!

March 1, 2011 at 9:23 PM  
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March 1, 2011 at 9:40 PM  
Blogger lvroftiques said...

Glad the girls are ok girlfriend! That has to be nerve wracking having to wait so long.

Hmmmm very interesting question...I'd really love to hear the story behind it......

I try to go with the flow....definitely more easiily said than done *sighs* Vanna

March 1, 2011 at 9:43 PM  
Blogger Melissa Miller said...

Debbie I can't tell you how happy I am for you. Great news! Believe me I do understand about waiting for test results and the anxiety this creates. Here's to good health for both of us.

As far as expectations go sure I have them for my family members, friends and such. Blogging...not so much. As I've said over and over again blogging is just a fun outlet for me and and a way to communicate with my blog friends nothing more. I always enjoy it and when I don't anymore I'll wrap it up. Thanks for always being sweet and thoughtful. You're a doll and we all love ya.

Warmly, ~Melissa :)

March 1, 2011 at 9:44 PM  
Blogger Kathy said...

So so glad to hear all is alright, but I felt that anyway, your such a bright and shining star that needs to be right here where you are...enriching my every day with your sunshine..great pictures btw

March 1, 2011 at 9:58 PM  
Blogger Anita @ GoingALittleCoastal said...

I know it stressful with all that waiting. So glad to hear it all came out well. I would be the same way about cutting back coffee and chocolate!

Your pictures are beautiful. I love your perspectives in the two bench shots. Makes for an great picture!

March 1, 2011 at 10:16 PM  
Blogger Jemsmom said...

Yeah for healthy boobies!!!! I know that is a HUGE relief for you! You have always been honest, open, and caring. What more could anyone expect?!? I am so glad you are here and love reading your blog each time you post with what new adventures you come up with!

March 1, 2011 at 10:24 PM  
Blogger Maxine said...

God bless you and your Family and Home!! To God Be the Glory for everything we have that good in this world!!! Love, love!!!!!!

March 1, 2011 at 10:54 PM  
Blogger CAS said...

Oh, I'm so glad everything is okay. You are such an amazing young woman and a real inspiration to so many. I'm so glad I discovered your blog.
CAS

March 1, 2011 at 11:00 PM  
Blogger Linda said...

Glad your checkup went well! I guess as far as expectations go, I expect honesty and goodness, but I am a pretty much live and let live girl...

March 1, 2011 at 11:36 PM  
Blogger Grannys Attic said...

Glad the boobs are OK! Got my report back today and mine are OK too! Love the photos great job. Expectations I just hope and pray that I can continue to live up to the ones people have chosen for me! Hugs, Vicky

March 2, 2011 at 1:12 AM  
Blogger Coastalpines said...

What fabulous news (except for the caffeine & choco part...)!!

I really enjoy your blog and I did miss the newbie linky party, but I hope to catch up some time this month!

March 2, 2011 at 7:47 AM  
Blogger Carrie @ Dittle Dattle said...

Very good news!

March 2, 2011 at 8:15 AM  
Blogger Lou Cinda @ Tattered Hydrangeas said...

Good boobs are a great thing!!! So glad to hear this wonderful news!!

And it IS Oprah's loss!!

Lou Cinda :)

March 2, 2011 at 4:31 PM  
Blogger ♥ Sonny ♥ said...

wooohooo on the GIRLS being good~!
expectations, oh my, we should have learned in kindergarten not to have those and yet......what is they say " the higher the expectation, the harder the fall" ok well maybe thats not what they said, but they should have lol..

xoxoxoxoxo
Sonny

March 2, 2011 at 8:34 PM  
Blogger Michelle @ Green Kettle said...

I expect your boobs to buy your feet a pedi! Glad you are doing well.

March 4, 2011 at 6:56 PM  
Blogger Carmen @ Life with Sprinkles on Top said...

Yay for healthy boobies! :)

March 4, 2011 at 7:37 PM  

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