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Wednesday, June 16, 2010

Help a girl out here FEEDBACK needed.

I received this email from a very lovely follower.  I have to be honest with you all at this point and tell you I am having a heck of a time keeping up.  I replied to her and basically said when my boys where at school, I did have more time to myself....really not being as productive as I would like, but productive enough to get by.  Now that they are home, I am doing most of my blogging catch up in the evening.....having a very, very hard time. I never want to hurt any ones feelings and not give you all the same courtesy you give me.  I enjoy coming over to your blogs just the same.  However, I have figured out I am on the average doing 4-5 posts per week.  Most all my posts have a high comment count .....and I hardly, if ever miss visiting back to you.  HELP me out, what are your feelings on this etiquette.  I do not want to lose the relationship and connection I have made with you all.  But at this rate, I am exhausted from visiting at least 200 or more blogs a week. Would it be rude of me to only visit once a week or so, or perhaps if I am only participating in a linky party, just visiting the participants that visit me? I can honestly say, I find when participating in the parties....most that I visit, I never see them visit me....so I mostly have the gals come to me first and then gladly take the visit back to them.  I know I am not alone here in this thought process.  Now some of the larger blogs out here, I do not even see them visiting? I am certain they do not respond to every comment made on their blogs,  Yet their following is growing in numbers and they are adored. One thing I do know for certain and will never change my opinion or feeling on, are the linky parties.  You have a party, take the time to visit the participants.  MOST all I participate in do...however, there are a handful I have never even seen the host, what's up with that? Is that the way you treat your guests when they come visit?.  That to me, is ill blogging manners no matter how you slice or dice that! Here is the letter I have been given permission to share.  I did not give you her name or blog as that is confidential. Now I know this topic has been raised and discussed out here many times.  I never felt it concerned me much, even early on I did a post on it.  But now I need to know your personal thoughts once again, as over time has changed as well as my following in numbers is growing....which by the way THANK you all, I truly do love blogging, and adore all the great women I have met out here, and will continue to meet. You all make it so much more worth it!

Debbie,

You are my favorite blog.  I would love to be your neighbor, you're so much fun!  
So, who better to ask these questions.  I am 7 weeks into this blogging thing.  
It has been so much fun and such a learning curve.  Posting is no problem, it is 
keeping up with everyones post!  I was gone for vacation for a week and I can't 
keep up!  Every time I comment on a blog, you have already been there, how do 
you do it?  

How many hours a day do you spend looking and commenting on blogs.

Should I always comment back to someone that comments on my blog?  I do now if 
they ask a question or I have a comment on their comment.  Should I be going to 
all of their blogs

I have trouble keeping track of people that comment, so I am not sure if I 
comment on their blog or not.

Now I am trying to comment on everyone that I follow, I can't, some people post 
everyday.   I don't comment if it is like just pictures of flowers or something.

Help......How do you decide who to comment on?

Thank you Thank you........Vixen lady!
 
HERE IS THE FOLLOW UP EMAIL of me requesting her
permission to post her email. 
Post away!  What a great idea!  I just can't see when someone leaves a comment 
like,  "That's cute" going back to their blog and commenting.   Here is what we 
really want to know.  Do people keep track of who does or does not comment on 
their blog?  Will they quit going to your blog if you don't comment on theirs?   
I would love to just skip along and comment on blogs I follow when it is 
something I like, and I would like to just return comments on my site when it 
warrants a return comment.  I can't wait to see what people say!

YOU ROCK!
FEEDBACK PLEASE
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Blogger ♥ Calamity Anne ♥ said...

I can't see anyone spending a good portion of every day commenting. Afterall, I'd like to think we all have lives outside of Blogdom. I hope people don't think I'm rude for not responding back to every comment, but I do comment back to those people who spend just a little extra time sending kudos and saying more than, "cute project," or "nice photo." Trust me, I appreciate each and every person that comments, but I too have other things to do besides having a virtual lifeline to this computer. With that said, I really should catch some zzz's.

June 16, 2010 at 12:17 AM  
Blogger Jemsmom said...

What a great topic to bring up. I try to comment back on every one that I get, but I only have a few followers. I don't know... no... I know that I couldn't do it if it was 300 followers. I don't even know where the ladies begin who have followers in the 1,000's! I am not offended when I am not commented back on. I leave a comment because I want to. It is nice when I get one back, but I don't feel that the blogger is obligated to do it.

I am a slow poster. I just get caught up with other things and weeks will go by with no new post from me. I appreciate those who stick with me!

I think this is something that you do from your heart. You post as often or as little as you want, you comment as much as you want, and you give feedback as much or as little as you want. If someone gets offended, then they can choose not to follow. We as women get so worried about offending others and supporting each other. The bloggers that I care about know it and they have my undying support. Others I follow because I like what they share, but I don't always feel pressure to respond.

Blogging is fun. Blogging is fun. I think we just need to say it over and over and over!!!

June 16, 2010 at 12:22 AM  
Blogger D said...

Hi,
This is a question I've pondered since blogging, and I think there's no definite answer. I can only tell you how I feel........

When I do a post, I hope it is something that will be of interest, or entertain or be something that others can relate to. If I get a comment ,I hope it is because I have achieved that goal in some way.
I don't want bloggers to feel obligated to post a comment on my blog, just because I've posted a comment on theirs.
Likewise, If I comment on a post, it's because I really liked or enjoyed it or could relate to it in some way.
I don't Blog or post to see how many "comments" I can get. I just put it out there, and hope somebody enjoys it.
It's a touchy subject, I know. I love all my followers, and love and read each comment I get.

Blogging is such a nice place to be a part of. I have not seen any negativity (or hardly any), and the people are so nice and supportive of each other.
So I say............Blog, and post, and comment,and let's don't get hung up on how many comments we get or if a comment was returned. Just enjoy it. It's such fun!! Life's too short. hhehehehe
(JUST MY HUMBLE OPINION)

June 16, 2010 at 12:35 AM  
Blogger Sabrina said...

First of all, you are a VERY thoughtful blogger. You have always been so sweet with your comments on my blog and I really appreciate them. That said, I would totally understand if you only comment on stuff that really grabs your attention. That's truly where I'm at these days. Summer fun is in full swing and I can't possibly comment on 1) all of my commenters and 2) all of the blogs I follow. And if someone expects that of me, I am not going to feel bad about it. Sometimes people get a little to wrapped up in this blog world...and forget the real world in the process. Don't get me wrong...I LOVE comments and appreciate my readers taking the time to do so. However, I also understand that most of us have homes to keep up, mouths to feed and hugs and kisses to give out. So basically, do what you can, do it for you and those that truly love you will still be there. Great topic!

June 16, 2010 at 12:35 AM  
Blogger Natasha said...

I am so glad you posted this! I have been thinking about these things too.

I completely understand when people don't get back to me as, if they are like me, they have lives! They have kids, work commitments, partners etc etc! The last thing sweet people like you should be worrying about is commenting.

I have actually cut back on my posts lately and am trying to visit people every few days. I have also been busy helping my kids set up blogs, mainly because they need to learn how to use cyber space responsibly but I am also trying to get my son (who HATES reading) to blog about books he has read...I hope my cunning plan works!

Anyway, you should just do what makes you feel happy and comment if and when you can.

By the way, I so agree about people who host linky parties not even visiting their "guests". I have actually stopped participating in a couple because over a period of about 6 months the blog owner never once visited me! I don't expect to be visited every single time but just once would have been nice.

Anyway, this was good to get this off my chest-thanks!

Best wishes always,
Natasha (a very happy follower!)

June 16, 2010 at 12:39 AM  
Blogger Loui♥ said...

Hi..
Blogging is an outlet for ME!..I choose to share certain aspects of my life along with my photos ans sometimes ..humor.
I like comments and responses..
but my followers are not obligated to comment..that is their choice.
likewise..I comment when I feel one necessary.
I'm not into blogging to get X number of followers or to see how many posts I can post..I'm doing this for me..and am meeting some of the nicest folks along my journey while learning so much new stuff!!
and yes..I am having FUN!
warmest sandy hugs.. Loui♥

June 16, 2010 at 12:43 AM  
Blogger Linda said...

I know this is really hard~ I don't have nearly as many followers as you do and I have trouble keeping up! I don't post as often unless I'm doing something special- sometimes only once or twice a week. I don't put pressure on myself to post. I also don't comment all the time when I check in with a blog, just once in awhile. I'd never get my feelings hurt, if you didn't respond to my comment~ maybe you should write that you really appreciate comments, but might not always be able to respond.

June 16, 2010 at 12:43 AM  
Blogger Melissa Miller said...

Hi Debbie,
That is the age old question of blogging etiquette and yes it is brought up time and time again. I think what it boils down to is do the very best you can. Your true friends will understand you have a life and will visit and comment on your blog posts anyway. Having fun and making new blog friends is my favorite part. Along with a little blog decorating inspiration. I'm not taking it too seriously or worrying about it these days. I have done this worrying before and it was silly on my part. When the day comes it's no longer fun for me I will stop blogging. I love it now even though I do run out of post ideas often. *Smiles*

Enjoy it sweet friend! You are doing just fine. ~Melissa :)

June 16, 2010 at 12:47 AM  
Blogger Tawny said...

I TOTALLY know how you feel! Not that I have near as many followers or near as many comments on a post, it is overwhelming. I get so stressed out about blogging and then have to stop and think, "why do I even blog in the first place?" I guess overall, I do what I can and if I have hurt or offended someone, maybe that wasn't the person that I was supposed to connect with because we are less alike than I think?
200 blogs is NUTS. I really don't know how you do it. Blogging should be fun, not like a job. You've never made it seem that way, it just sounds like it would be "work" to visit and comment on all of that!
I think too I look at blogs but can't awlays comment. Doesn't mean I wasn't intrigued, or interested, or in agreement...and so on! I hate that it can make us feel like that.
Look at me, I haven't commented in like a month, but I'm still here :)
I'm looking forward to reading your comments on this post :) Thanks for the perspective and questions!

June 16, 2010 at 1:06 AM  
Blogger Matty said...

Deb, I've seen this concern raised many times about proper blogging etiquette, and what other bloggers expect.

When I first began blogging, I was out of work for an injury, and so I had all the time in the world. Plus I was new and wasn't following many people, nor did I have many followers. I was able to comment on every single post of every person I followed, AND, I replied to every single comment I received on a post. As time went on and my list of followers grew along with the number of people I followed, it just got too time consuming to read and comment on every single post, and reply to all the comments on my posts. Plus going back to work took up most of my time and made it even more difficult to keep up.

Now, because there are so many blogs I follow, and my time is limited, I only comment on the posts that I make a connection with. That doesn't mean that I don't like a blog I follow, it just means that the particular post is of no interest to me and I have nothing to say about it. But maybe the next one will and so I will comment on it. Plus, with few exceptions, I no longer reply to comments on my posts. I just don't have the time anymore, but it's in no way an intentional neglect of anyone who has visited me. It's just for my sanity.

As for the "you comment for me, I comment for you" thing. Over time, I've gotten to know who will comment on my posts regardless of whether they've heard from me in a while, and who will only comment AFTER they've received a comment from me. I guess that's just part of blogging.

Hope that helps.

June 16, 2010 at 1:58 AM  
Blogger Molly said...

That is a good question. I try to follow the "rules" of linky parties that I join up with and visit and comment. For those people that comment on my posts..usually through email because that is how I read most of my comments). If someone becomes a new follower I try to always go see what they are about and thank them for following along. I am actually a little stingy on my comments and only do it if something really speaks to me. But that is just because I have a hard time being sincere if I'm not--know what I mean?

You can't get possibly comment on everyone else's site that comments on yours, just be loyal to those that are loyal to and try to branch out every now and then.

June 16, 2010 at 2:14 AM  
Blogger michelle b @ every little thing said...

i think that follower sounds a lot like me...there is a fine line between wanting loads of followers and having too much work to keep up. blogging started for me as a fun therapy, therefore when someone comments on my stuff or likes what i'm doing, i am totally flattered...i will often check out their blogs and follow if i like what they have going on. otherwise, you could go crazy visiting, following and keeping up with all who stop by! not realistic!
thanks for the post, debbie!
xoxo

June 16, 2010 at 3:06 AM  
Blogger ♥ Sonny ♥ said...

I asked these same questions awhile back.. Most weeks I only do 2 posts , so I can make sure there's time to at least go and comment to those who commented on mine. I do ever except to have a bazillion followers and thats ok too:) I appreciate those who do visit and let me know they enjoyed what I posted.. I work and so I post when I have time and I comment when I have time to go visit others.. Some weeks I can do alot and others, not to much..
Maybe I should make that clear - sorta like a disclaimer- at the beginning of each post I make so folks will know my situation.. For me blogging was supposed to be fun. I don't have a store of any kind, not trying to sell anything, not concerned with how many hits or visitors I have or any of the commercial reasons folks are blogging. Mine is just me sharing a scape or item I bought and what I did with it or something that touches my heart:) I wish I had the perfect answer for you but alas I do not..
You have to do whats right for you and your life n family.. We wuvs ya but they come first and rightfully so...

hugs and happy thoughts
Sonny

June 16, 2010 at 6:07 AM  
Blogger Frau said...

I have alot of time on my hands now so I read and comment alot ...do I expect the same no but every now and than yes. But do I stop following no...everyone is busy and summer is here and lets face it family is what is important...when blogging becomes a chore it's no fun. I read blogs because it is my books,life line, info highway, humor, style info and friend. It's gotta be that easy!

June 16, 2010 at 7:34 AM  
Blogger Donna said...

Hi Debbie,
Thanks for bringing this topic up, it's a great one! I have wondered the same myself. I started my blog just a couple of months ago, so I don't have anywhere near the number of followers that you have. I do try to respond to nearly all of those that take the time to comment, but I know that it would be impossible if I had tons of comments! Real life does get in the way some times :) I do want to say that I think you are such a thoughtful, fun person, who genuinely cares about others feeling! It really means alot to me when you stop by & visit when I join your linky party! I know what you mean about other hosts never visiting. Also, I know we all have lives, but if I take the time to leave several comments on someones site, and they never stop in & see me, then I don't bother returning. Of course I don't expect a return comment every time (that's just not realistic), but once would be nice! So I guess that I will echo what others have said, that we should not sweat it, do out best, and keep the fun in blogging!

June 16, 2010 at 7:58 AM  
Blogger Eve said...

Debbie, You are Awesome! I found your site via a lovely comment you made on someone elses blog! I'm really glad you commented otherwise I wouldn't have landed here!

Every time you've left a WONDERFUL comment on my blog, I'm surprised that you, with so many followers and such a great blog to update, had the time to visit me! I'm very honored!

Of course no one can comment on everyones' posts, especially with a large following like you have. So for me, please don't sweat a thing! And I believe the more followers you receive the less comments you might be able to leave on blogs, and I think almost everyone on your blog WILL UNDERSTAND!!! Am I right folks????
Much LOVE- Eve

June 16, 2010 at 8:05 AM  
Blogger Bonnie said...

You know that I am a new blogger and you have been very supportive. At the time I started, I didn't realize how much time this would take. I thought I would just do a post and read the comments!! I found out quickly that you have to comment and follow others to receive the same. That makes me appreciate what you, Kathryn and Kim have done for me by taking the time to comment on my little blog and send me encouragement.

Now, for my opinion! I don't expect a reply to my comments. You are right that if I just say something is nice or cute, it definitely doesn't warrant a reply! I like receiving comments and therefore even a few words means someone took the effort so I try to do the same on the blogs in my blog roll. There are many wonderful blogs I follow and visit from time to time when they comment but I don't have them in my blog roll. Only the blogs that have content I love and don't want to miss are in my blog roll! Even then, I visit if it is something that catches my interest. There are a few blogs like you, Kim, Melissa and Kathryn that I visit every time you post because I enjoy each of you as much as your blog.

As for parties, I do visit the majority of participants if it is decorating related. I'm not too much into crafts so I may skip some of them. I figure the rules are to visit so I try to visit them or not link up to the party. Definitely if you are the host, you should visit and thank them for participating.

Women can be petty, however if they have their feelings hurt because you don't respond every time they comment or visit their blog every time they post, they have too much time on their hands.

I have my faith and my family that has to come first. I blog because it is therapeutic for me, I love doing it, I learn so much from others and it motivates me to get projects done.

I have rambled long enough. I learned a long time ago that you can't please everyone and will drive yourself crazy trying to do it!!! Hang in there!!

June 16, 2010 at 8:12 AM  
Blogger Kathy said...

I think people are trying so hard to visit as many as possible to develop connections that to be able to do so brief comments occur.
Your emailer shouldn't compare herself to those who've established themselves over time through posting, commenting and developing relationships. Being new myself, I have learned a lot very quickly - we all do have to strike a balance between blogging and our everyday lives. I feel blogging has enhanced my view of my life - wishing to share even more.
Patience and endurance, I think are what would be needed for your friend.
Thanks for what you do! I do see you trying quite a lot to visit as many as possible!
Kathy

June 16, 2010 at 8:12 AM  
Blogger Keetha Denise Broyles said...

I think we do what we can and leave it at that.

If you follow more than a hand full of blogs, it isn't possible to visit them all every day.

This is my system: I go through my "blogs I follow" list as frequently as I can. When a picture/title there catches my attention, I go to that blog and read it. If a comment comes to mind, I comment.

When I'm away on vacation I take lappy with me and do what I can - - - but I don't worry if I can't keep up. I know I'll be back in touch when I get home.

I think blogging should be fun and NOT be another responsibility that we have to check off of some list each day. If it becomes an obligation, it will cease to be fun.

June 16, 2010 at 8:14 AM  
Blogger Pam @ diy Design Fanatic said...

Debbie, you post a lot and have a lot of comments, so I wouldn't expect you to be visiting every single person's blog and to make a comment back. That is wayyyy too much pressure on you and too much time to be spending online, especially with your boys home. I can't remember on whose blog I read this, but it was on a blog with several thousand followers and she said that she answered every email until her followers were at 200, then it became too much to answer every one.

June 16, 2010 at 8:20 AM  
Blogger Tennis Girl said...

Debbie,
My boss has always told me, "just do what you can do", so in my opinion that is all we can do. Don't exhaust yourself with this, as blogging should be a fun time at your leisure. I would never be offended if you didnot get back to me everytime, as we all have lives and other things to do. Sometimes, I just post a comment on my post thanking everyone for their comments, so everyone knows I have read their sweet comments :) Just enjoy your blogging!
xo
Robin

June 16, 2010 at 8:38 AM  
Blogger SueLovesCherries said...

There is one blogger I know who writes back to every comment, and she has a lot of followers. I tell her she doesn't have to answer my comments, but she does anyway.

My first year blogging, I went to all my followers just about every day. I don't answer comments unless it's a special one or someone asks a question.

I was starting to get so overwhelmed and feeling guilty, but then just told myself that I can only do what I can do.

June 16, 2010 at 8:54 AM  
Blogger gail@myrepurposedlife.net said...

Debbie... I am so laid back about all the blog business. Very few things ruffle my feathers. I comment on posts that I can really identify with. Something that gives me inspiration.
As far as me getting comments. We all love to hear kind words. But do I expect my friends to comment on EVERY post? NO. I average 6 posts a week. (usually 3 projects)
A lot of bloggers don't have an e-mail addy attached, that sort of ruffles my feathers. When I have time, I click over to their blog and leave a comment. BUT sometimes when time is short, I would love to just "zip" back a friendly e-mail saying "thanks"!
I subscribe to my own comments in my google reader, and I also have my comments sent to my inbox. THAT really helps to keep up with who said what.
It looks like your friends have lots of thoughts on this subject, me included.
Time is short this morning, and I started to wait till later, but I knew I'd forget, so that is why I popped out of my reader to put in my 2 cents now.
I hope you have a really great day!
I'm off to do the dreaded mowing of the grass. *sigh*
gail

June 16, 2010 at 9:00 AM  
Blogger Nichol said...

I cannot keep up and there is no way I can comment back on everyones blogs who comment on mine. Sometimes I'll just leave a comment in my comments giving my thoughts and thanks. I appreciate each and every comment everyone makes and try to return the favor. I agree though. The larger blogs out there, I never see a comment from, nothing. I don't think that's right at all but whatever. I have almost 1,000 followers so to sit and comment on each and every post would be nuts. You have a great blog, with personal posts and your decorating. I will be back no matter what!

June 16, 2010 at 9:12 AM  
Blogger Phoenix Peacock said...

I'm commenting. now I expect one back, ha!

Hee hee...

I think blogging should be all in proportion to the rest of life. While it is nice to get comments back from the people I comment on, it is not required nor expected. I think it might depend if the blogger is professional or trying to run a business. But if it is just for fun or artistic/writer expression, then you do the best you can... and maybe that means that it goes in waves and you are more on top of it say during the school year when you don't have your hands full with kids!

I think it also depends on your number of followers. Not having many, I can keep up with mine. If I had tons, I think I'd get back to those who regularly commented in a sincere way and otherwise just say an occasional hi to everyone else.

June 16, 2010 at 9:22 AM  
Blogger Charlotte said...

I appreciate each and every person who has become a follower of my blog. I get excited everytime I get a new follower. I cannot comment on everyone's blog, but if you have posted something that I find interesting, I will leave a comment. Most days, I read the new posts of the people I follow when I sign on (dashboard). I try to visit each person who participates to a linky party and leave a comment, but I really get miffed when someone links to a party and then has a post that has nothing to do with the meme. I think it is rude to link to a meme if you are not going to post about what the meme is about. I have seen several on your linky party that post a recipe, post about things bought at a department store or post about something they are selling. You were a godsend to me when you started this linky party because I love showing my yard sale treasures. Thank you for being true to yourself.

June 16, 2010 at 9:48 AM  
Blogger Kim @ Savvy Southern Style said...

Debbie, you know I struggle with this too. I am putting so many hours a day into blogging. I try to comment back on my comments, but when you get a ton of comments, which I so greatly appreciate, it is hard to get back to them all. And then I have another post up and more comments coming in. When I link to parties I try to comment on a few and like you they don't all respond so why are we killing ourselves trying to respond back to all our commenters. I do try to keep up with my blog roll, too. I have lost a couple of followers recently off my follow list and that really takes the cake. How immature to stop following someone. I also have a blogger who I thought was a blogging friend that I had made on here that no longer comments on my blog. She was one of the first ones to comment on my blog when I started it and she and I kept up with each others blog and now I haven't heard from her in 2 or 3 weeks. That hurts because I don't have a clue why she stopped. I must have missed a post when I was busy painting the house and unable to keep up. I read Thrifty Decor Chicks blog post today and she said she use to respond to all her comments, but no longer can. Just too many and not enough time. There has to be a balance somewhere. We are not super heroes!

June 16, 2010 at 9:50 AM  
Blogger The Quintessential Magpie said...

Great discussion!

I always comment back to people who comment to me. I also find that there are particular bloggers who visit regularly, and I visit them regularly. I struggle sometimes to keep up, but when I am in a particularly tough spot, I take time out and don't visit or don't post and only visit. But I really do try to visit everyone who visits me. I even visit some who don't.

I keep my followers button off my blog so that the people who do follow, I feel are serious followers. Does that makes sense? And I follow everyone who follows me and some who don't.

The main thing to do is to enjoy blogging. And I agree about visiting people if you have a meme. That's like inviting people to a party and not speaking to them, BUT there are exceptions when the person giving the meme has circumstances in their lives that are unavoidable. They usually explain that. I used to go visit everyone on a meme, but those days are gone, too, because the numbers are out of control. Also some people whose memes have grown to gigantic proportions can't visit everyone, and I understand that. It's usually been explained up front. I accept their explanation and am still friends with them. I've been blogging for a while, and I enjoy it and enjoy getting to know other people with similar and dissimilar interests. But it has cut into my time with other areas of my life. The main thing is to keep balance.

XO,

Sheila :-)

June 16, 2010 at 9:59 AM  
Blogger The Quintessential Magpie said...

Debbie, I hope you got my long comment. I'm not seeing it here, but in a nutshell, I visit everyone who visits me and some who don't. I think the main thing is to balance your life offline with your life online. I have a busy life, and when I need the time, I take off from my blog but always explain that. Hope this helps!

XO,

Sheila :-)

June 16, 2010 at 10:02 AM  
Blogger Pink Roses and Teacups said...

Hi Debbie,

What a great topic! You have way too many followers to respond to every comment. You received a lot of good advice on this post. This is supposed to be fun, not a job.
Just enjoy it, and do what you can.
Looks like you are doing a great job!

Smiles,
Debbie

June 16, 2010 at 10:11 AM  
Blogger Shell said...

You do what you can do. If you replied back to every single comment when would you have time for your family or to create more projects to blog about?!
Several responses already say comment to those you connect with. I wholeheartedly agree. And if you connect with all of them, learn how to function on 2 hours sleep a night :o)

June 16, 2010 at 10:24 AM  
Blogger Suzanne said...

Here are my thoughts -- It's summer and people are enjoying their children and their families. Blogging is a fun hobby, but it should always take second place to more important things (people) in life -- family and other more important responsibilities. I love comments on my own blog and I love leaving comments on other's blogs when I have the time, but I try not to take it very seriously.

June 16, 2010 at 10:29 AM  
Blogger The Garden Bell said...

Amen, praise the Lord, as the saying goes. You now get where I was coming from this week. I know I'm new here, but I do so enjoy visiting your realm of the creative world. Just don't feel like you need to comment every time on everyone's blog. You will go insane as I did over the weekend. There are some that I like to visit regular and comment regularly. To be honest, I think I found you through a linky party. This has been new to me, but am thinking I can't keep up with this regularly. I'm all about finding the "unique" blogs now and sticking with those. Sorry, to say but those overly "Mommie Blog", make me run for the hills. Just a little too commercial for me.

I know you were a leader and speaker of the thoughts on all our minds these days.

Thanks so much for making me not feel alone. This is suppose to be fun and not become a J.O.B., right. I'll walk away when it becomes that for me.

Off and Running,
Kate

June 16, 2010 at 10:34 AM  
Blogger Sailing Simply said...

Oh this is a good one! You are going to have to do a second response post on your blog for everyone on this one so you don't have to get back to each of us, since your already showing 27 comments as I am posting mine. LOL! I have wondered about how difficult it is going to be if I get more followers, so I am pleased it is still nicely managable. I like to respond back to those who are new commentors especially if I'm not already following them. However it does become time consuming when you are trying to also comment on the blogs you enjoy, check out new blogs, comment on linky parties, and post and LIVE my life! I would be so discouraged if I didn't get any comments but I'm not worried about getting more and more. I've noticed some people never comment back but I still love some of their blogs and want to let them know if I see something I like. My only real beef so far is joining a linky party that may be large but you hardly get anyone visiting you. I try to visit atleast four per party based on if the post sounds like one I'm interested in. That's my mingling thought. I really can't visit each one and have never even considered it. But I wouldn't join a party and not visit anyone either. I am just trying to have fun but it does get overwhelming when you get to worried about keeping up. I think when that happens it's time to pull back and take a breather! I know I will!

June 16, 2010 at 10:40 AM  
Blogger Julie Schuler said...

Do what you feel like! I respond to some comments if I feel like I have something to add, but I don't feel obligated.

June 16, 2010 at 10:47 AM  
Blogger Hope Filled Living said...

Debbie,
Gosh, I only have under 70 followers and have a difficult time keeping up with comments sometimes! My life is very full so I have chosen to occasionally do a post letting my followers know how much I appreciate them--then when I get a couple of hours once in awhile I visit a whole bunch of my followers and post to let them know I appreciate their friendship.
I know you'll discover what works best for you and your loyal followers will continue to follow because they see value in your posts.
The other day I got a really mean comment from a follower in my message box! Wow!
Mary

June 16, 2010 at 11:17 AM  
Blogger Kathy said...

Deb, as a devout follower because you have made me feel special for almost a year now, and because of your very interesting blogs about life in general...I wondered when this day would come (being overwhelmed with all this)....You have been the best & most polite blogger out there. I feel I know you so well and your good intentions that you need to do what you need to do and people who know you will want you to do that.
I have read and agree with all the comments here so I will make this short.....

You have got your blogging started off so well and put so much effort in to it..unless you are wanting to turn it in to a business enjoy your kids for the summer and we your good friends are going to take what we can get from you and be happy for you.

June 16, 2010 at 11:26 AM  
Blogger Jenn Miyamoto said...

When I leave a comment, I don't expect a comment back. I try not to ask questions in the comments section, so I don't pressure anyone in to visiting me and commenting. It is nice to see linky party hosts visiting on my linked post, though. PS: I love you garage sailing party (although I have yet to participate)...I check it every week!!

June 16, 2010 at 11:42 AM  
Blogger miss corner cape said...

well i don't know what can be said that hasn't already been said, but know that i appreciate the comments you make on my posts, and i hold them to be sincere comments. i comment when something strikes me, and mine are sincere. if i don't hear back from those people, ok, but i wanted to let them know i appreciated what they did or what they wrote. to me that's what it should be about, not if they visit me after. i have taken to replying via email when i have already posted a comment and they write back. this way i feel i am still responding. my work days are strange, i'm either busy or not, so i read. right now, i am covering the front desk for a coworker, and so i am reading.

as far as link parties, i have stopped participating in one b/c i didn't receive any acknowledgement from the host despite comments and linking. not that i need "great job" but it felt strange to not hear from them. i don't think they highlighted others, either, it was just link up.

anyway, this is incredibly long, and you just do what you feel good about doing.

June 16, 2010 at 11:56 AM  
Blogger Melanie Beth said...

I am new to your blog (thanks to Kathy!) so I have yet to comment... but I have to say, it wouldn't be fair for someone to be offended when you have so many devout followers! I try to comment as often as I can... but the only time I'm disappointed not to hear back is if maybe I had a specific question or something. Otherwise I APPRECIATE visits and comments... but can't expect them, especially from the more popular bloggers! Try not to feel bad if you can't make it to everyone, all of your followers know you are a sweetheart and will love you no matter what!

June 16, 2010 at 1:06 PM  
Blogger Linda @ A La Carte said...

What a strange day!!! I was thinking about this subject the last few days and then today here you are with this topic and Thrifty Decor Chick wrote on commenting today. Since my blog has grown to over 200 followers I also have been overwhelmed! I appreciate and love all comments on my blog. I love to leave comments on the blogs I follow but must say I can't do that on every blog on every post! I love blogging and don't want to lose that feeling of fun. I agree that if someone leaves a comment that really connects with me I will try to respond via email. If no email then I don't have time to go find them and leave a comment on their blog that they visited me and on and on and on! I do try to respond to new visitors to my blog as a courtesy. I follow blogs I LIKE not so they will comment back. I do agree about parties/meme's that it is nice to have the hostess visit you but the one's with hundreds of link ups I think that would be impossible. I don't want my blog to lose my personality and flavor that makes it me and so I blog about what I love and respond when I can. If someone chooses to not follow me then that is their choice and I am not angry or hurt. Life is too short to sweat the small stuff. I love your blog and I do appreciate the times you comment and understand it can't be every time!!
Whew...maybe I needed to vent this! I may do a link up on my blog about this.
Always, Linda

June 16, 2010 at 1:06 PM  
Blogger Lou Cinda said...

Well, as for me, I try my best to comment and visit the blogs that visit me. I do have quite a few blogs that I ADORE (yours is now one of those) and I do pop over and try to stay current and leave a message! I will say, there is one particular linky party that I have participated in many, many times, MANY times! I have never gotten a comment from her! In a year and a half, not ONE! I do think to myself What is up with that??? RUDE! However, I move on and don't participate so much in her party anymore. But I do have those that always comment on my posts and I always answer them! I don't know what the proper thing to do is, because when you have so many followers, it just isn't physically feasible to visit so many! Girl, just keep posting, I'll keep reading! You inspire with or without commenting back! You inspire....

Lou Cinda :)

June 16, 2010 at 3:00 PM  
Blogger Feeling Just Right said...

Oh My! Deb. Really. This is EXACTLY what's been running through my mind for the past 4 days.

I hardly post now because I am exhausted reading blogs and commenting. HOW DO YOU DO IT? I wonder too. How do you spray paint the whole world, be a mum, cook, be there for the kids, do all the great designing stuff, shop, POST and COMMENT?? How?

This is why I didn't participate in Friday Follow after the first time. I met you amazing women the first time and I am grateful. So grateful. When the follower numbers increase, sometimes I am happy, sometimes I think, "OMG, One more to read. Hope they don't post everyday. How will I cope?"

Crazy. Boon and bane. What do we do?

I love weekends now because people rarely post! But then I miss them too! Love hate??!

I wish it would be okay to comment only when you have the time to read and want to. But it feels improper. BUT there should be no obligation in friendship, right?

You see how much I feel here, I am venting!!

Also, I find it so hard sometimes to reply back to each comment on my blog right there. I do it because I like it. Feels personal. But then, it needs time!

June 16, 2010 at 3:15 PM  
Blogger ChRiS said...

I could comment everyday on you post Debbie and i surely would never expect you to respond.....If i asked a question or asked for help on something then yes a reply would be expected........Girl your doing a gr8 job

June 16, 2010 at 3:37 PM  
Blogger bampitt said...

I also look at your blog on a daily basis because you have inspired me to not only to redecorate my sad little fixer-upper of a house, but to do it with creativity and frugality. For example, I have fallen in love with garage sales and have found many treasures that I now look upon with new eyes. I have followed everyone's links and have gotten great ideas for my home.

I have been blogging off and on for a few months but I have yet to have any followers. I don't know if my subjects are boring or if my writing is bad, heh. Oh well, such is life. I therefore, have no problem with finding time to reply to all the comments. However, I would not think that all comments would need to be responded to. You would spend your entire day replying to them and never get a chance to work on your wonderful house!

(By the way, what is the name of the yellow color on your walls? I've tried to duplicate it but it all looks too yellow)

June 16, 2010 at 3:43 PM  
Blogger Victoria said...

First of all, you are so near and dear to my heart that I will never stop visiting and following your blog and will never stop leaving comments regardless of how often you visit mine. You were my first follower and you've always been so kind and supportive to me through my blogging journey:)

I think what you might have to do is something like what Cindy does on hers, just put a comment at the end of some of your posts letting your readers know that you read and love all of their comments and visit as many as you can but due to real life you can't make it to all. When Cindy does comment on my blog I'm thrilled and flattered but I'll never, ever stop visiting hers cuz I love her!!!

Unless you're a professional blogger then I think it should be fun! If it stops being fun then you have to re-think it. I only do a few linky parties a week now because I enjoy visiting the other blogs and I hate not having time to do that. I know you're one of the bloggers who responds within their own comment section so I usually come back to it and read, I know Frency does the same on hers.

And don't forget sweet Debbie, in a few short years you'll barely see your boys...they'll drop in for something to eat then they'll be off and running so enjoy them while you can!!! I adore you and I adore your blog:):):)

June 16, 2010 at 4:03 PM  
Blogger Pat @ Mille Fiori Favoriti said...

Hi Debbie

This is a good subject! I've seen it addressed on other blogs in the past, but is always good to open a forum for discussion on it from time to time for new bloggers.

I feel it is such a dilemma, because if someone takes the time to visit my blog and leave a nice comment common courtesy makes me feel that they deserve the same. Yet I have been guilty of missing return visits when things are happening with my family, or when I'm traveling. Some things have keep me away from the computer for a day or two or up to a week, so I try to understand that may be the case with others.

I still try my best to visit everyone that visits me, and there have been nights when I've been online till 2 AM trying to visit all the blogs that have left comments to me, but when I miss some here and there I hope they understand. Sometimes I will catch up on two or three posts I missed and comment on all of them, and other times I know I am so backlogged and just give up -- I have to be realistic and know that I can't be on the computer all day long.

I want my blogging to be fun, so I just try to do the best I can about returning comments, and I try to space out my posts so that I have a few days to catch up with comments in-between.

So my advice to your reader is to do what she feels is best for her, and remember that others will do the same for the most part. Don't take blogging so seriously that you allow it to hurt your feelings...keep it fun and a sharing experience..and mostly do it to make yourself happy!

♥ Pat

June 16, 2010 at 4:31 PM  
Blogger Debbie said...

WOWZA on the responses....I will further address all this on my next post. BAMBITT....I just went to your blog, became your first follower YAY! Tried to comment and there is something wrong...I can't email you because you have no email address or way to contact you...so look into why comments can't be made on your blog...I hit comment and nothing happens, tried on every post. THANK you all for your wonderful feedback and again stay tuned.....

June 16, 2010 at 4:47 PM  
Blogger laterg8r said...

I say blogging is whatever YOU decide to make it! If you have more time, visit. If you are only comfortable with once a week, do that.

If people want to follow you they will and if they don't (just b/c you don't comment on EVERY single one of their posts) then they aren't good peeps anyway - so good riddance!
We all have times where we can do more or less than others and we shouldn't feel guilty for living our lives - otherwise what would we have to blog about.

Loads of people struggle with this but i do notice that the bloggers with large followers don't comment at all.

June 16, 2010 at 5:05 PM  
Blogger Debbie said...

Color of my walls are Butter...restoration hardware color.

June 16, 2010 at 5:53 PM  
Blogger Jenny S said...

hehehe! I comment when I feel the need or if someone left me an especially nice comment. I might check out there blogs IF I have the time, but not everyday!

June 16, 2010 at 7:09 PM  
Blogger The Garden Bell said...

Just checking in to make sure you made it through the day. Take a day off like I did today, it does the soul wonders.

June 16, 2010 at 8:29 PM  
Blogger Angie said...

I remember we did touch on this a bit before. I don't have as many fans as you so not a huge problem for me. I follow the blogs I want to follow because of their content. I don't follow anyone unless I WANT to. I only comment when I want to and I don't expect anyone to comment or visit me in return. You'll run into plenty of people who i'm sure expect otherwise but I started blogging for ME. I don't want it to be a huge commitment. You aren't going to be able to get to all of them. That's all there is to it. I'm sure you have the ones you've "clicked" with more than others. Those would be the ones I would focus on. By the way- i'm sure those are the same ones who don't expect anything from you - so when you do comment it's that much more special to them ;)

June 16, 2010 at 8:56 PM  
Blogger Roberta said...

I have been blogging for two years and started my second blog this past Jan. and I do not have a lot of followers and/or comments. The reason I'm saying this is because I don't blog to receive comments...I blog because I like to write and take photos and originally I started my first blog as an extension of my etsy shop after closing down my retail shop. Then I continued to keep in touch with my family and to keep a virtual scrapbook to record our memories and happenings...without having to get out all my stuff to actually put together a book. Some day when I'm ready the everything I need will be here on my blog to "jog" my memory. My second blog is for inspiration and to raise awarness for my charity work. I post 3-5 times a week and only when I feel like it...not necesarily because I have to for an audience. If someone comments then I always acknowledge it with a response. I follow over 1,000 blogs a week with my google reader and leave comments regularly...but only when I am truly interested in the subject matter and NOT to get that person to come back to my blog. This comes across as being insincere and that was never my intention for blogging. It is just a fun way to stay connected with family and to meet some fantastic people who are mothers, fathers, artists, homemakers, designers, photographers, foodies...and on and on. I use to work full time and became unemployed but I maintained this amount of reading/commenting/writing on blogs even when I worked 50 hours a week and commuted 2 hours daily. For the record...I don't watch hardly any TV and even in the evenings when I'm sitting next to DH I use my mini-pc to read blogs and books. AS a new blogger you really need to ask yourself...what are my intentions in blogging? If you know what your expectations are from the outset then you will find the balance that you will need in all areas of your life...not just in blogging. Hope this helps, fondly Roberta

June 16, 2010 at 10:35 PM  
Blogger HollyC said...

Debbie, I've watched your blog grow and grow and I've often wondered just how you keep up!! I do so enjoy visiting with you and I love it when you stop by and leave me a comment...however, I'll keep right on visiting with you with or without comments! It's hard to keep up a blog...So... live your life and enjoy your precious family!!
A Faithful Follower,
~Holly

June 16, 2010 at 11:52 PM  
Blogger The Polka Dot Closet said...

First of all Bampitt I want to follow you too, but like Debbie said you can't comment. I bet you have lots of people who have tried to follow you!

Debbie, your the bomb, I have it now! I have really kind of messed up, but it is not to late to fix it. I was trying diligently to read and comment on every blog I follow, but never replied when people commented on mine unless I was asked a question or there was something I wanted to comment back. So, how was a new blogger to know???? Debbie to the rescue!!!

June 17, 2010 at 12:39 AM  
Blogger Holly said...

This is always a good topic. So, I wrote my Blogiquette post and that had about 100 comments...and then my blog grew a lot and I have had a very hard time keeping up and adhering to those standards...but I am trying and have been planning a follow up post.

You do a great job...you have nothing to worry about....you are hospitable and simply warm and friendly.

I can in no way get to ll the blogs I follow...last time I checked I think my subscription # was about 1500!!!!!

I am only posting 3 times a week for now...maybe less (like this week).

If you have your email attached to your comments/blog I am trying to email back as I receive them and then visit later.

I do not keep track of who comments when...that is not the purpose of my writing or my blog...I do notice when I join a linky party and the host doesn't EVER bother to stop by. I was guilty of this for the first few Tickled Pink hops.

Overall, we can only do what we can do. I have been unfollowed like mad recently too...could be my posting, could be I am not commenting as much...oh well...life, real life comes first as much as I love my bloggy life.

June 17, 2010 at 2:38 AM  
Blogger Holly said...

Oh yeah...I try to hit 2 posts at a time if my commenting back has been delayed or sporadic.

June 17, 2010 at 2:38 AM  
Blogger Cheryl said...

Since I can be fairly anonymous here, I have something to add that's been bugging me about this whole scene.

Since everyone else has shared their opinions on comments and responding, I want to focus on the hosting. I was the Blogger of Note over on Words of Wisdom. Their intro for my blog was lame. Only one of the founders of this new site even bothered to show up. The rules for being in their limelight was to spread the message about their site. I get that and understand. But to not even show up? Not cool.

June 17, 2010 at 7:36 AM  
Blogger My name is PJ. said...

If people would forget about follower count, the answer would be easy:

Do what you can, when you feel like it.


We all have lives. Blogging is but a small part of them. People who like your blog are going to continue to read. People who don't won't.

June 17, 2010 at 9:01 AM  
Blogger Melody said...

I was a peeker. Yes I admit it. When I found out about blogging it was in 2006-07 and I just went down Blogland Main Street and peeked in windows. I had a selling website, but no blog. I left comments ocassionally and was amazed at regular e-mails I received from some of these bloggers. They had taken the time to look for my e-mail by my Company name! I never expected an answer. Well, after a year or so a few encouraged me to start my blog....as a marketing tool if nothing else, cause lets face it...I'm no writer, lead a really boring life, and bad at taking pictures.....so, here I am 2 years, 46 followers, 2 blogs, 2 etsy sites, a Website, and 2 memes I co-host on a group blog, later. I know 46 followers are not a lot compared to others, but to me I'm honored by their freindship thru Blogger. The song on my blog page by Tigger, 'The Bestest Present Ever' is dedicated to all those who have chosen to become follower Friends. That said, They don't visit every day, nor comment all the time. I don't visit every blog every day. I don't comment and don't expect a comment back when I do. When I post it's a slow process for me so I do one once, maybe twice a week. When I get a comment I don't receive 45 at once..sometimes I only get 3. I try to comment back within the week if someone has taken the time to visit, but usually not same day.. As others have said we do have lives outside of Blogland.
Now I do host 2 Linky's, Market Monday and Vintage Alphabet Party on a group site, open to the public, and both are week long memes. Market Monday is an open selling venue and we have 75 participants and counting...I always welcome new participants I take the whole week to do it..a little at a time. Same with the Alphabet party. These have gotten such a large following that I place general message comments on the posts.
I have seen some bloggers that have right on thier Comment page that they appreciate the comments and read every one ,but are just physically unable to comment back to each and every one.
I think we just need to use a little common sense. It is not a personal afront if someone doesn't return visit your blog that you have stopped by and commented on. Blogs are an open forum where folks pass by say hi and go on. As some have noticed and mentioned there are those bloggers who just want the 'Followers' list to skyrocket for #'s sake. But, if they come back repeatedly ( with more than a 'cute stuff') then they are more than acquaintances, they do deserve our attention. They are trying to gain a real friendship in Blogland.
See I told you I have a hard time posting. I hope I said this right. Oh, and with 59 comments Debbie if you don't get to me...I'll understand...reallly

June 17, 2010 at 9:56 AM  
Blogger Melody said...

I was a peeker. Yes I admit it. When I found out about blogging it was in 2006-07 and I just went down Blogland Main Street and peeked in windows. I had a selling website, but no blog. I left comments ocassionally and was amazed at regular e-mails I received from some of these bloggers. They had taken the time to look for my e-mail by my Company name! I never expected an answer. Well, after a year or so a few encouraged me to start my blog....as a marketing tool if nothing else, cause lets face it...I'm no writer, lead a really boring life, and bad at taking pictures.....so, here I am 2 years, 46 followers, 2 blogs, 2 etsy sites, a Website, and 2 memes I co-host on a group blog, later. I know 46 followers are not a lot compared to others, but to me I'm honored by their freindship thru Blogger. The song on my blog page by Tigger, 'The Bestest Present Ever' is dedicated to all those who have chosen to become follower Friends. That said, They don't visit every day, nor comment all the time. I don't visit every blog every day. I don't comment and don't expect a comment back when I do. When I post it's a slow process for me so I do one once, maybe twice a week. When I get a comment I don't receive 45 at once..sometimes I only get 3. I try to comment back within the week if someone has taken the time to visit, but usually not same day.. As others have said we do have lives outside of Blogland.
Now I do host 2 Linky's, Market Monday and Vintage Alphabet Party on a group site, open to the public, and both are week long memes. Market Monday is an open selling venue and we have 75 participants and counting...I always welcome new participants I take the whole week to do it..a little at a time. Same with the Alphabet party. These have gotten such a large following that I place general message comments on the posts.
I have seen some bloggers that have right on thier Comment page that they appreciate the comments and read every one ,but are just physically unable to comment back to each and every one.
I think we just need to use a little common sense. It is not a personal afront if someone doesn't return visit your blog that you have stopped by and commented on. Blogs are an open forum where folks pass by say hi and go on. As some have noticed and mentioned there are those bloggers who just want the 'Followers' list to skyrocket for #'s sake. But, if they come back repeatedly ( with more than a 'cute stuff') then they are more than acquaintances, they do deserve our attention. They are trying to gain a real friendship in Blogland.
See I told you I have a hard time posting. I hope I said this right. Oh, and with 59 comments Debbie if you don't get to me...I'll understand...reallly

June 17, 2010 at 9:56 AM  
Blogger 1 Funky Woman said...

Well Debbiedoos, you know I love you and if you comment on my blog great if you don't great, I still love you. I have a lot of time on my hands now with the kids gone and in a cast so blogging is the only thing I can do. Even with that said, I still don't leave a comment on everyones post. If I don't think it warrants a comment I just don't. What I mean is if they leave a picture and it leaves me all inspired I might leave a comment but sometimes I don't. We women need to quit worrying about what others think. We need to blog for ourselves and be happy for that. Comments are fun perks. Blogging to me is just so I can get my quirky thoughts about life, decorating, my kids, my husband and anything else that strikes my fancy. It is more therapy than anything!

June 17, 2010 at 12:19 PM  
Anonymous Bec said...

While my blog does not EVEN begin to get the amount of traffic that yours does, I still find myself overwhelmed sometimes with commenting. This may sound kind of mean, but sometimes I'll get a comment on my blog and I'll visit their blog back and I feel they are just phishing for comments. So I comment back when I feel I have the time. I comment on blogs when I really love the content of the post, I visit all the blogs that come to visit me and give comments back when I feel they deserve them, and I give credit to people who make my blog thrive. I've learned blogging is my free stress relief, I'm not going to let it add stress by needing to comment on everyone. As long as I'm visiting them, I feel good.

June 17, 2010 at 1:37 PM  
Blogger H said...

I mainly blog because I like to be creative in a way which has nothing whatsoever to do with work; if work is mentioned at all, it is by choice.
Yes, it is lovely to have followers and comments, but I hope that people would only comment if they feel a need to respond to what they have read or seen on my post. I don't want people to comment because they feel obliged to!

The only blogging party I participate in regularly is Alphabe-Thursday (with a very occasional photo-Friday), so most of the week, keeping up with the blogs I follow is easy. On Thursdays, I just try to visit as many blogs as I can and always to visit all of those who visit me, because I think that is the polite thing to do.

It is a tricky one because reading 40+ blogs can be very time consuming, but I do my best.

June 17, 2010 at 1:57 PM  
Anonymous Diann @ The Thrifty Groove said...

Hi Debbie!

Wow girl, you ahve hit upon a subject we are all struggling with. But first I must stand up and applaud you regarding the "linky party and lack of hostess visiting when you link up to their party"!!!!

I just had this conversation with a bloggy friend last night at a matter of fact!

I join a lot of parties. I love them. I get introduced to a lot of new blogs out there and so enjoy meeting new people. However, I am starting to cull out the bloggers who host these parties and then never visit you or the linked post you added to their party. If you are going to host a party, visiting your guests are a MUST IMO!!

You Deb, are a doll! You have always vistited me when I link to your party and thank me for linking up! Perfect hostess skills!

As far as commenting on every post or on the comments you get, this has been a huge struggle for me. I love my comments and all the fantastic people who take the time out of their busy schedules to visit me.

I have been really trying to work out a time frame for this problem. What I have been doing lately, and this is just my way of doing it, no right or wrong system here, every morning when I get my cup of coffee I spend one hour visiting the people who have left me comments on my most recent post. After I have done that, I go to the parties that I linked up and visit as many folks as I can in that remaining hour.

I found myself dedicate way too much time to visiting blogs and commenting. I was neglecting other important things going on in my life.

Now, with that said, I still, whenever I have some time, go and visit other blogs. I just get so many wonderful ideas or smiles from all of you.

June 17, 2010 at 2:15 PM  
Blogger Shanarun said...

I will comment from the perspective of not having many comments to my blog, so I do not know what it is like to have to get back to everyone. So, I can comment on "waiting for a reply." #1: I am so happy to view all of the information and cruise around on a blog for FREE!; #2: If I actually have a question, and you do not manage to get back to me, I will ask again later if it is really that important; #3: I want bloggers to ENJOY THEMSELVES; #4: It is (really) nice to have my blog visited -But, if you do not come take a look -I DO NOT REALLY CARE BECAUSE IT IS ALL ABOUT FUN - NOT OBLIGATION. :) Hope this helps!

June 17, 2010 at 2:38 PM  
Blogger Kelle Dame said...

I do believe it is nice to leave comments with those that leave you comments. At least the ones that are more than "thats cute". Some blogs are really important and inspiring to me and I will visit them every day whether they leave comments for me or not. I figure if I am gaining something just from being inspired then I don't need much more.
It is highly annoying to me at times when I leave comments with questions and never get a response. It is also annoying when I sign up to follow a blog and then that blogger comes to my blog repeatedly and leaves comments, but does not sign up to follow my blog. They could just be forgetting or not thinking of it, but it kinda annoys me.
Just do what you gotta do and those that appreciate you and love you will keep coming back for more :) Those that matter will understand and those that don't understand aren't worth your time anyway right?

June 17, 2010 at 2:39 PM  
Blogger Debbie@Debbie-Dabble said...

Debbie,
Now that it is summer and more time is spent outdoors, it is hard for me to keep up on visiting. I try to visit my followers first and the blogs that I follow. But with working full time, it is very hard.
I am trying to combine my posts with several parties so I am not on the computer my whole life and I am sure you know what I mean. I LOVE blogging but it can be very time consuming. And i do know what you mean about people who host parties not even visiting their participants.

Hugs,
Debbie

June 17, 2010 at 3:23 PM  
Blogger The Garden Bell said...

I'm so happy to see you've taken the day off. At least, I hope that's what you are doing. Well, that is unless you are out spraying something. Yes, I sprayed today. Yes, I linked your blog into my posting. Yes, I seriously still want one of those recliners.

Happy Day Away... Good Girl, Mine was yesteday,
Kate

June 17, 2010 at 4:00 PM  
Blogger Gina said...

This is such a difficult subject and I've seen so many bloggers struggle with what to do about it.

I guess I blog because I've always loved to write, so this is a creative outlet for me. I do from time to time struggle with keeping up and I think that's so sad. Why, if this is a creative outlet for me, do I have to struggle & feel obligated to do it? (I was once an avid scrapbooker and have struggled with that same question there and still do.) If it's supposed to be fun, why have I turned it into a chore?

I do my best to get around to all the blogs I can. Whether I should visit every single blogger who comments on my blog, is the million dollar question! If I have time, I do, but that isn't very often. I think there are some people in blogland that you just take to and feel a "kindredness" with. (Is that even a word?) Those are the blogs that I tend to comment on over and over again otherwise I may visit, but not comment unless the topic interests me.

I wonder sometimes, is it loyalty that we're really struggling with here?

I guess this topic can be talked about until we're all blue in the face and I doubt we'll ever come up with anything concrete.

All this being said, I want to say that you have always been very sweet & gracious everytime you've commented on my blog and I thank you for that.

June 17, 2010 at 7:19 PM  
Blogger Allison said...

I follow so many blogs but I get behind so easily on just trying to keep up. I comment on a lot of blogs and I always love if they comment back to me but a lot of the bigger ones never do. I don't really blame them though- they get hundreds of comments, I'm sure they don't have time!

I don't have many followers, and not sure how much traffic actually, but if someone comments on my blog, I try to comment back to them somewhere. Sometimes I just do it on my post, not sure if they ever see it, or I will go to their blog and comment. I LOVE to receive comments so I try to give back and share some love as well.

I agree that if someone is linking up to your party- as a host it is only proper to at least say hello. Would you ignore your guests at your house? Don't think so! lol

June 17, 2010 at 10:32 PM  
Blogger FLOWERSHOPGURL said...

Hi Debbie, I could have written that letter too! I have been blogging since the end of March and I'm exhausted keeping up as well. Like you, I visit and comment on each comment I receive and I also visit many blogs and leave comments. I also have noticed that on some parties I never see the host either. I love blogging and I love the community of bloggers and have often wondered many of the same questions. The past two weeks have been very busy for me and it's getting crazier. We are in the process of purchasing a home on the Jersey shores and it wasn't anything we planned to do. Our life has turned upside down in 2 days. We went away for a weekend and now are buying a house, selling ours and moving, what? Ya, that is what we are saying, just crazy. So I have had no choice but to pull back on posting this week and part of last. I love blogging and visiting everyone and have received a lot of support and made so many friends. I love you, your energy, your honesty and sense of humor. You crack me up and make me smile. I've missed you this week and am way behind on your posts for the first time since I first found you. I will continue to blog and visit when I can and of course leave comments when I visit. You will always have us following you; we'd be lost without you. Go slow, take it easy and enjoy your family and blog when you can. We will be here waiting for you! You're the best and I really care for you even though we have never met in person. You have charisma, and you will go far in blog land.
Big Hugz,
Kim

June 18, 2010 at 12:31 AM  
Blogger Life in Rehab said...

I know how you feel, I try to visit everyone who comments on me, and my blog isn't anywhere NEAR as popular as yours. Say hi when you can, and we all understand believe me. We all have our own "stuff" too.

June 18, 2010 at 2:42 PM  
Blogger Jemsmom said...

One thing I noticed that several people wrote on here is that they will go back to that post and leave a comment on that specific post to say thanks to all who have commented. I don't normally go back and reread most postings so if someone does that, I will normally miss it. I did come back and reread this one because that was on my mind! Love reading what people think on this one!

June 19, 2010 at 12:18 AM  
Blogger Shirley said...

Sometimes I post 2 or three things in one day but then it may be days before I post again. I just find if I sit down at the computer, it eats up my time like crazy. Things don't get done and I never to get to bed on time!! I try to comment back to people who leave me one. My problem is that I like to get comments so I'm so busy joining in on "parties" that I don't get to just post things I want to say! I guess because I don't get many comments if I'm not in a group in a "party"! I guess I need someone out there listening. Sad hey!

June 20, 2010 at 11:34 PM  

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